How Do I Tell Him I Want a Divorce?

This could possibly be one of the toughest questions I have ever received, but I am going to do my best to try to give you some of my thoughts and suggestions.

First of all, is your husband aware of your unhappiness? Does he have any idea of what could be coming? If not, I don’t think I would come right out and ask for a divorce. In this case, I would try talking to him. I would start with, “Would it be possible for you and I to sit down and talk about our relationship? I am feeling unhappy and unfulfilled in our marriage, and I want to hear how you are feeling.”

This way, you get to see where his head is, based on his reaction. If he gets upset and starts screaming at you, then he is obviously unhappy, as well. If he is utterly shocked, then maybe he will be up for talking once he absorbs what is happening. I mean, is there any way you’d consider trying to work it out if he was on board with that? He also might say, “I am unhappy, too,” and it could lead to some productive communication.

I will say this. People always say marriage is hard, and I agree. Sort of. It’s not really hard, but it is hard work. What I mean by that, is (and this isn’t just for marriage, but for any relationship) the two people have to be committed to keeping it alive, keeping it sexy, keeping it honest, staying best friends, and that is done through good communication.

In a marriage, the marriage HAS TO BE your number one priority in life. It needs to be nurtured, like you never want it to die. It needs to be fed. What that means is both people making sure the other is happy, sticking by that person when they are sick or in a bad place, being happy for the person and showing support when things are good, and of course, making sure the other always knows he or she is loved and that you have their back. It’s not easy because it takes effort. But it IS easy if you want to make that effort.

Now, let’s say you are so past this point. You are done. The two of you have talked until you are blue in the face and in your mind, there’s no going back. So, how do you tell him you want a divorce?

Gently. Kind. And in a caring way. But, the fact remains that whatever words you use will undoubtedly translate to “I want a divorce.” Examples: “I think I might want a divorce,” “I think we should talk about our future,” “I’m not happy.” “I think I might want to separate.” “I think we should take some time apart.” He will interpret all of these things as “I want a divorce.”

It will hurt him, shock him, destroy the ground beneath him. And that is so so very sad, but the reality is, every divorce started with someone saying those words.

One more thing. The fact that you wrote to me and asked me, “How do I tell him I want a divorce,” shows me that you care. If you didn’t, you’d have already done it and you wouldn’t want my advice. That says a lot.

So, ask yourself if you are sure about this, or if you think the two of you might be able to get back the love you once had. Maybe instead of “I want a divorce,” you could try, “I want to work on our marriage?”

Divorce and Children 7 Tips That Will Benefit Your Kids During Your Divorce

Tanya Stanish has been a family law attorney for 19 years, and is a Senior Partner at Schiller DuCanto & Fleck. But in addition to her excellent credentials, there’s something else that gives Stanish an edge when it comes to representing clients: her childhood experience.

“I was a child of divorce,” said Stanish, who has three siblings, and whose parents split up when she was just ten years old. “My parents fought in front of us, they rarely spoke to one another and we all felt all of that.”

Stanish said when her parents finally separated, life was actually better for she and her siblings, that the stressful situation went away, and that it was a much happier life for everyone, including her parents.

“That’s why when people talk to me and say, ‘I’m not sure I should get divorced because of my kids,’ I’m sensitive to it,” said Stanish, a DePaul University Law School graduate, who lives in the City with her two adopted children. “Divorce for my family was the best thing that could have happened to us. Living the way we were was very difficult.”

After hearing Stanish’s story, I asked her for advice for divorcing couples when it comes to their 

children. 

Here are her 7 tips:

Get professional advice from a therapist on how to answer questions your kids will ask you, such as “Why are you getting divorced?” “Are you mad at dad (or mom?” “Where am I going to live?” Parents struggle with the answers to these questions and the answers are important because they can have a huge affect on kids.

Look for changes and signs of a struggling child. Children often display unhealthy behavior due to the stress of a divorce, such as cutting themselves, not eating, temper tantrums, changes in school, changes in sleep, excessive crying, or depression. Professional therapy can be very helpful.

Show them a lot of love and support. Assure them often that both mom and dad are still here for them and that nothing has changed as far as that is concerned.

Talk to your attorney if you want your child’s opinion heard. If necessary, children can have a voice in decisions made in the divorce process. For example, if there is a reason they don’t want to spend half the time at each parent’s home, that can be addressed.

Never, EVER talk negatively about your ex in front of your kids.This can be very difficult, but constant negative talking will have an affect on your children. Vent to your friends, family or a therapist, NOT to your children. Nothing good can come of it.

Do not use your children as a vehicle to deliver messages. “Tell your mother I will pick you up at 4pm tomorrow,” is not appropriate. “Tell your dad I need the child support check,” is not appropriate. Communicate through phone, texting or e-mail, not your kids.

Keep your children’s best interest in mind at all times, before speaking or any actions you might take. The divorce process can be emotional and infuriating at times. Before saying or doing anything, ask yourself, “Is this going to hurt my children?” If the answer is yes, think of another route of obtaining your objective. Putting kids in harms way is never a good option.

Constantly Fighting About Money With Your Spouse?

Does this conversation sound familiar?

Wife: “Honey, I need money.”

Husband: “What for?”

Wife: “What do you mean, ‘What for?’ To pay bills!”

Husband: “I’ve never seen anyone spend more money than you.”

Wife: “Stop being so cheap.”

Husband: “All I do is work to make money and all you do is spend!”

Wife: “What about raising your children? Who does that?!”

Husband: “I’m just saying, could you try to spend less and save more?”

Wife: “You’re clueless. You have no idea how much things cost.”

It’s a well known fact that the number one reason couples fight is money. But, according to Elaine Koby Moss, discussing finances with your spouse doesn’t have to feel like you’re in a boxing ring with gloves on.

Moss, who is a vice-president at the Chicago investment advisory firm, Vestor Capital,has spent the last 25 years in the financial industry and has worked with hundreds of couples to alleviate fear, stress and conflict when it comes to financial planning and saving.

I asked Moss why money is such a big issue of contention in some relationships and she gave three reasons:

1). Couples are coming together at an older age. Both parties are coming to the table with assets of their own, which is a change from generations past when couples formed at younger ages and built their wealth together. This causes both men and women to be more guarded and less willing to co-mingle funds in some cases.

2). One person might be earning significantly more or all of the family’s income. The imbalance can cause conflict because of resentment.

3). There might be differences in spending and/or saving habits. People come to a relationship with very different backgroundsand philosophies in regards to saving and spending. One person might be more of an investment risk taker, the other might prefer conservative investments. Sometimes it’s hard to understand the other’s rationale behind their investment choices.

Girlfriends Guide To Divorce: Realistic? Maybe Worth Watching? Definitely

So, last night, I sat down and watched the premiere of Girlfriends’ Guide to Divorce, trying to put my bitterness and jealously aside and be an unbiased critic. Here is my review:

The Plot

Abby McCarthy is the best selling author of a self-help series who seems to have the perfect life: a cute husband, two great kids who attend a prestigious private school, a beautiful home, and all the money she needs.

But the truth is, her marriage is crumbling, and she and her husband, Jake are trying to hide it from everyone, including the kids. While Jake is already dating (and sleeping with women), Abby is desperately holding onto hope of saving the marriage. One night changes everything…

Abby’s two new best girlfriends, Phoebe and Lyla (both divorced) take her out to a new club. There she meets (and has sex with) the gorgeous, young manager of the place. When she gets home at 5 a.m., Jake goes ballistic and their fight leads to the kids walking in and finding out their parent’s marriage is over.

At her Barnes And Noble book signing the next day, Abby blows her cover of having the perfect life, telling the crowd she sometimes wishes her husband would die. The episode ends with her walking out of the store, probably relieved to have come clean, but in a way, broken.

The Actors
Maybe the producers of Girlfriends Guide To Divorce missed out on a great writer (me), but they certainly got it right with the actors—every one of them. I remember Lisa Edelstein all the way back from Seinfeld. Just hilarious! And beautiful. Next, they went with Paul Adelstein, who was the pediatrician on Private Practice. The only thing that bothered me was that they named the couple “The McCarthy’s” when they both clearly look Jewish. Why not make them a Jewish family? That said, throw in Janeane Garafalo and Carrie Fisher and this cast really was top-notch.

What I Think
So, I have to admit, I was thoroughly captivated during the whole show, which might be because divorce is my business. But I don’t think so. As far as pure entertainment value, I’d rank it up there withGrey’s Anatomy (the early years), Desperate Housewives, and maybeLipstick Jungle.

Did it paint a realistic picture of divorce? At times, I think it did, even though it was greatly embellished for the purpose of entertainment (which it should be).

It was funny to watch scenes that were similar to scenes in my novels,Free Gift With Purchase and Divorced Girl Smiling, such as Abby and Phoebe’s French kiss, Abby’s vulnerability when sleeping with a much younger man, and Abby’s girlfriends telling her that people saw Jake get a hotel room with a much younger woman. What it made me realize is, there are certain “givens” that typically happen during a separation and divorce, and any writer would include these in his or her show. Not saying every newly separated woman goes out and kisses another girl, in fact, most probably don’t. But, most DO have that first encounter (and many times it is with a younger man).

Very unrealistic: when Abby calls out “Jake” during sex with the younger guy. No way a separated woman would do that. Just wouldn’t happen (in my opinion.)

Also, I could have done without the brother character—Abby runs into him in a coffee shop and is avoiding telling him about her divorce because he is so conservative. Who does that?! It’s your brother! When I was getting divorced, I called my brother crying and seeking support. That seems more realistic to me.

I could also have lived without the gorgeous gay friend who is one of the dads at Abby’s kids’ school. I saw no value or purpose in that relationship. That said, there is a scene where the gay guy says, “Marriage is forever. It’s not like there was abuse or alcoholism.” Abby then replies, “I’m sorry I disappointed you in the fact that I wasn’t abused.” Very good writing.

I think my favorite scene was when Abby gets home at 5 a.m. and Jake is sitting at the kitchen table waiting. The fact that she slept with someone drives him nuts, even though he has been sleeping with several women. So, what does he do? He tries to have sex with her! Very realistic of what a man would do. But, I was so glad she didn’t do it. She had just had sex with the younger guy an hour ago. That would have been kind of yucky. The scene was realistic in the sense that newly separated couples often go back and forth, indecisiveness every minute and things becomming explosive.

I will look forward to watching Girlfriends’ Guide To Divorce next week, and probably for the whole season. Not just because of my business, but I’m curious and I really care about Abby (which is a credit to Edelstein and the producers of the show.)

It’s funny. I once pitched both my novel, Free Gift With Purchase and my unpublished manuscript, I’ve Got Issues to a well-known movie producer. He said to me, “Divorce movies don’t sell. No one wants to watch their divorce on TV or in a theatre. It’s just too painful.” Really? First of all, the guy is married (never divorced) so how did he know that? Secondly, he is out of the business now. Here is my answer to him.

10 Reasons to be Thankful on Thanksgiving, Despite Your Awful Divorce

That first Thanksgiving when you’re newly separated can be brutal. It’s hard to feel thankful when you’re trying to cope with your awful divorce, and all you can think about is that your marriage is over, your kids are crying, finances might be tough, and the future seems bleak.

BUT, in the words of Taylor Swift, I want you to shake it off and really focus on all the things you have to be thankful for this Thanksgiving! Here are 10 reasons to be thankful, and I’m really getting back to basics here because I think it is important not to lose sight of all the miracles—the gifts that are occurring FOR YOU every second.

1. YOUR KIDS. You might despise your ex right now, but without him or her, you wouldn’t have the people you love and cherish most on this earth. Take the focus off of “what HE did,” or “how SHE is acting” and hug, kiss, and LOVE your children. Feel gratitude that you have them and that they are healthy.

2. Your health. I recently had a little health scare and I know it sounds trite, but it really changed my attitude about a lot of things in life. When I thought something might be wrong with my health, I realized how unimportant money was, how little fighting about petty things meant, and how much my loved ones (my kids and boyfriends and family) rallied around me. HEALTH is everything. EVERYTHING.

3. Your family. Think about each family member individually and what they have taught you in life, what you admire and love about them, and why you are grateful for them. My mom, dad, siblings and other family members are treasures that I hold close to my heart.

4. Your friends. How important are they to you? Call and tell them!

5. Your dog? If you are a dog person, you have something that non-dog people don’t have. Its special and important.

6. Food, whether it’s on the table or in your fridge. Ok, so your ex has the kids this year and it’s killing you. You might not even have Thanksgiving dinner plans, and you might be sitting in front of the TV eating leftover Chipotle. So what?! You aren’t going hungry. Have gratitude for the food you are eating, no matter what it is. You can have a Thanksgiving dinner with your kids when they get back. Do it! It’s no different than the actual day. You can make it special!


7. A roof over your head. Again, maybe you are sleeping home alone on Thanksgiving and your kids are with your ex and his new wife. Say to yourself, “Who cares?” I will be in my warm bed in my home, and my kids will be coming home in a couple days. Also, if alone, I’d highly recommend renting “Homeland.” You will be so into the show, you will stay up all night watching episodes that you will thoroughly enjoy (with your jaw on the ground for hours at a time!). Trust me on this one!

8. The things that go right every day that you don’t even realize.Instead of focusing on what is wrong right now, try to realize how much is going right. Every morning, you wake up, you turn on your lights. They work. You make coffee. Your coffee pot works. You enjoy it. You go workout. You feel good. You go to work. You get a paycheck. Try to appreciate all that is going right, not your ex’s bad attitude or your loneliness (which I promise is temporary!)

9. Your bad marriage behind you. If you think about it, even if the divorce wasn’t your choice, you are better off now than you were in your destructive marriage. The truly bad part—the fighting or cheating or abuse or lying—is behind you. You are on your way to a better life, whereas when you were still together, you were not.

10. The rest of your life. Do you realize how powerful this is?! Don’t waste another day feeling sorry for yourself. You have the ability to go out and grab the life you really want. So much is in your control. Your actions, the way you treat others, your drive and determination and your love will all contribute to your happy, happy, happy ending!

Divorce Advice A Night Out With A Bunch of Divorced People

I am constantly giving divorce advice that answers e-mails I receive from readers. But for this post, I thought I’d offer some advice based on what happened to me last Wednesday night.

I’ll start from the beginning. I was headed to a suburban restaurant to meet a close friend for a quiet dinner. Since I hadn’t seen her in awhile, I was looking forward to catching up. I invited another friend of ours (a divorced guy) to join us. It would be a mellow and short evening, and I was looking forward to it.

When I entered the restaurant, I noticed that my friend’s sister was there (who I love.) I was happy, and I knew the evening would still be the same—lots of girl talk and laughing. Enter our guy friend with some girl, who didn’t seem particularly friendly. It was awkward. Uncomfortable. I’m thinking, ‘I don’t get to go out that often and I really don’t want to deal with some girl who is going to be rude to me.’

Shortly after, an old friend of mine (who is also friends with our guy friend) walks in. Now I am ecstatic, because I love this girl and we lost touch awhile ago, something I really regret. She is with a friend who was instantly likable.

Then there’s this guy sitting at a table next to our big table eating dinner alone. I start talking to him. He is from London, lives in Boston but he’s here for work. He’s so sweet. Divorced. I tell him to join our table after his dinner. He seems unsure.

Then a couple other guys walk in. One is friends with the original girl I was meeting there, and one is a friend of someone else there.

I then spot a woman I know a few tables over having dinner with her girlfriend. They join us.

This is key. What I began observing after several minutes was a connection of some sort. Everyone walked in not really knowing anyone, yet they seemed to be warming up. People were in deeper conversations. They were smiling, laughing at times, and just seemed at ease with each other.

If you compare the beginning of the night, when everyone seemed a bit guarded to the end of the night, when everyone at the table was joking and laughing about the colonoscopy procedure, an outside observer would have thought we’d all been friends for years.

Why the instant connection? It hit me. We all had divorce in common. With the exception of one girl, every single person at the table (at least a dozen people) had gone through a divorce, so there was an instant commonality and a comfort that didn’t take long to surface.

Here are the lessons I learned during the night:
Don’t be so quick to judge. The girl I originally thought was rude was anything but! After drinking a little bit, relaxing and getting to know each other, I have to say this girl is a sweetheart. She probably felt strange and maybe insecure. I found out the next day she had just ended a very long term relationship. I am kind of ashamed of myself for not being more open minded right off the bat. I feel like I made a new friend, which is gift I always enjoy receiving.
Let strangers in. The English guy ended up being the life of the party. He was hilarious. When I left, he was still in there, socializing away! We did a nice thing inviting him into our circle. Living in a foreign country and traveling every week probably leaves little time for meeting people. Perhaps we gave him a much needed friend night out.
Embrace the unforeseen. What I thought was going to be a quiet dinner turned into a party. Things usually don’t turn out the way you intend and that can be a good thing sometimes!

The biggest thing I can share with newly separated men and woman is this. Make friends with other divorced people. Both male and female. Don’t worry so much about meeting someone romantically. Just having a group of friends to call and get together with anytime you want is really a gift. Focus on new friendships that are platonic. The dates and relationships will follow, as you will meet others through this group. But more importantly, you will be part of something—a group that will include you in all these really fun nights out. And anytime you feel like going out, you have someone to call.

People always tell me how difficult it is to meet someone. My advice: THIS is how you meet someone. AND, it’s how you develop new friendships, have fun and move on from your divorce.

Sweet Romantic Love Messages That Give More Meaning to Love

If you’re looking for where to get such sweet romantic love messages that you can send to your lover and make him or her wanting to have you around them at all time, then you’re in the right place now to read and put to use lots of the sweet romantic love messages you can find here in I Love Relationship. Just feel relax and savour all the sweet romantic love messages here and now.

I wished on a star one night, wished to have a friend I will love for life, days passed and I started to cry, I didn’t know that my wish came true coz the person I wished for was you.



I’d rather be with someone who loves me more than I love him. I’m 100% sure that my happiness is his priority, and no more sleepless nights.



It’s not easy to let go of something you’ve put everything. But it’s harder to realize later on that you’ve been holding on to something that wasn’t there…anymore.



It’s wrong to hurt those who love you, but it’s worse to love those who hurt you. I began to make a step the moment I knew where I stand. Then I moved on.



Accidents do happen, I slip, I trip, I stumble and fall, usually I don’t mind it at all but now I don’t know what to do coz I slipped and fell in love with you.



As I lay down the cards in the game of solitaire. I see the king and queen of hearts side by side, I remember you and me and how you left me for the jack of hearts.



As you admire the wonderful things God has made today, remember you’re one of them – wonderful inside and out. You’re blessed. You’re special. You’re loved.



Did you know that most people assume that the summation of all the causes of hurt, pain and hatred in one word is just expectations?



Don’t ask the sun to always shine, the clouds exist, don’t ask the leaves not to fall, the wind exists, don’t ask me to just forget, I can’t, you exist.



I know nothing lasts forever and maybe we won’t always stay together but every smile and laughter we shared convinces me that the memories of our friendship will last for the rest of my life. Good Morning!



I look at you and I realize just how much you’ve been a part of my life, how special you are and how much you’ve made me happy. I look at you and I realize that heaven must be missing an angel.



Love is a contradiction, it’s hard to find but easy to lose, makes you feel good but hurts so bad, opens your eyes but makes you blind, fills up your heart then tears it apart.



My silence for a long time doesn’t mean that I’ve forgotten you. My being hush is a simple symbol, a promise that even if I’m being quite, I’ll always be here for you.



Never ask why the heart is red, the sky is blue, the cloud is white cause it’s like asking why of all people it’s you I care about.



Never ask why the heart is red, the sky is blue, the cloud is white cause it’s like asking why of all people it’s you I care about.



Sometimes people decided to be just friends even if they still love each other. Ever wonder why? Maybe because it’s not the love that’s hard to sustain, it’s the commitment that complicates everything!



Somewhere in your heart, try to find a place for me. Somewhere in your heart, I don’t care where it might be. One little corner may not mean so much to you but one little corner would be enough to see me through.



Staying with someone you really like even if you know you can’t be together for a lot of reasons are like standing under the rain. It feels good but you know it’s going to make you sick.



There were times I love to hate you. And then I love to love you. It’s like I want to throw you off a cliff, then rush to the bottom to catch you.



When torn between two lovers don’t choose the one who makes your heart flatter but the one who fills it with laughter coz the excitement will just fade away but the smile in your heart will always stay.



When you are running after the person you love and you’re too busy to notice me running after you, don’t mind me. But when you stumble and fall, take my hand and let me be the one to help you get up again.

Romantic Good Night Text Messages 160 Words Latest

Good night... sleep tight... don't let the bed bugs bite!

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Goodnight luv

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I’d walk a thousand miles to be with you tonight. Missing you – g’night.

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Its big,
It’s warm,
It’s fuzzy.
Before you get ideas – it’s a big g’night HUG from me to you!

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When the night breeze blows my hair, I imagine they’re your kisses
I can stand missing you this much.

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God sprinkles tiny but wonderful seeds of blessings on earth each day...and I just caught one that's so nice and true...it's YOU ! Love you and good night


One day I wish my dream would come true
And I’d wake up next to you. Till then Good Night!

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Every night I love coming back home. Because home is being in your arms. Good night my love!

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Just a line...2 keep in touch...
coz u r on my mind so very much...
& even though, I've nothing 2 say...
I’ll know...I thought of u 2day...Good night!

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I wish I was there to hold you tight, instead of just sending you this loving “Good Night.”

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Can’t wait to be in your arms again, my love. Good Night.
Every day I love you more than yesterday. Sweet dreams.

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Good night! I shall miss you till morning.

I don't dream about you, because I can never fall asleep thinking about you.

Good night. Sleep tight. I wish you lovely dreams with all my might.

GUD NIGHT!

Cute Love Text Messages to Send Boyfriend Or Girlfriend

I will love you forever and always.
Waiting for you at home, come back soon. I miss you.

When I close my eyes, I see you. When I open my eyes, I see you. There is nothing I can do without thinking of you.

To have you as my girl is my honor. Be with me always!

They say love hurts, but I’m ready to take that risk, if I’m going to be with you.

I would climb a thousand mountains to see you smile.

I’d like to wake up next to you every morning!

I never ever thought I'd like you this much and I never planned to have you on my mind this often.
Its big,
It’s warm,
It’s fuzzy.
Before you get ideas – it’s a big HUG from me to you!

You are the reason for my smile.

Words aren’t enough to tell you how wonderful you are. I love you.

You make my heart melt!

Life has never been better, thanks to you, sweetheart!

I miss you, we should get together soon!

If I had to, I would wait for an eternity to be with you.

A kiss says it all
And here’s one to say
That I’m thinking of you...

You take my breath away.
My life is perfect, but it’s because I am with you.

I love yo_. All I need is ‘U’

If I was your bed, you’d sleep on top of me!

If I could hold you close again, I’d never let you go.

Every day would be as beautiful as this moment if you were with me.

If I could describe you in one word, I’d call you my life.

You make my heart beat faster and slower at the same time.

There are three steps to complete happiness: 1) You 2) Me 3) our hearts for eternity.

You are IN my mind every second of the day. But if you want, you can be IN my house right now.

If you see a shooting star, close your eyes and make a wish. It worked for me, I wished for you!

You’re my angel.

My love for you is never ending!

You are my star on a dark night, you are my hope when all is bleak, if it wasn’t for you, I’d never be me!

My life is a jigsaw puzzle and you’re my missing piece.

You bring sunshine into my life! You aren’t the sun, but you’re just as hot.

I can’t wait to be with you again. Loves and hugs.

They say love gives you wings but is that why I’m in seventh heaven?

You complete me.

I could attempt to live without you. But I would fail miserably.

Life is beautiful because of you.

For you I may be just one person, but for me you are the world.

I can’t live without you.




prayed for a red bike, God gave me blue.I lost my old cap, He gave me new.
I asked for a friend who will always be true.
I prayed and prayed, till came you.

God sprinkles tiny but wonderful seeds of blessings on earth each day...and I just caught one that's so nice and true...it's YOU !

It takes 2 to tango. 2 to kiss. 2 to talk & reminisce.
So many good things come in 2s & one of them is me & u!

Gorgeous, intelligent, kind, sweet, charming, witty, hilarious, friendly...
Well, enough about me! So how are you doing?

I love all the stars in the sky, but they are nothing compared to the ones in your eyes!



Thank you for supporting me today. If it wasn’t for you, I’d be lost.
When words aren’t enough to tell you how great you’ve been, remind me to come and kiss you.

Loving you is like breathing. I can’t stop and it’s necessary for my survival.

You + me = Happiness forever.

If loving you was against the law and kissing you was a crime, I’d happily spend my life in prison doing time.

I will love you for the rest of MY life.

Kisses seal what two hearts feel.
I love you so.

Love Is - Running Into your Arms,
Colliding with your Heart
And Exploding Into your Soul.

I woke up one day and thought something was missing. So I got up from my bed, grabbed my cell phone and sent you a greeting. Good Day!

When you have nothing left but love, then for the first time you become aware that love is enough.

A smile is a wonderful thing – it warms the heart and cools the sting. Keep Smiling – always.

Do you know how wonderful it feels to wake up each day and know
That you are mine and I am yours? – Have a wonderful day, my love.

It took me years to find perfection; I’m never going to let you go!

I’ll love you like no other. Be with me always!

People come and go, but you and I will stay together, forever.

If I was a planet and you my moon, I’d stop spinning just by looking at you.

The world can cry foul by seeing you with me, but everything is fair in love and war.

You are the one for me.

You are my number 1!

Life is not a waste as long as there is at least one person in the world who cares for you.
So when things go wrong and you feel like giving up – remember you’ve got ME!

Lovely wishes 2 a Lovely Person on a Lovely Day.

If I could rewrite the alphabet I’d put U and I together!

Top Tips For Building a Loving Relationship

1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.

Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down.”

Remember: your partner is not the enemy.


2. Separate the facts from the feelings.

What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.


3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.

Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.

4. Develop and cultivate compassion.

Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.

5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.

The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.

The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.

6. Partner, heal thyself.

Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.

7. Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.

All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners’ behavior means. For example: “She doesn’t want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore.” We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what’s not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.

8. Make time for your relationship.

No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.

9. Say the “hard things” from love.

Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.

Signs Your Wife Will Cheat On You

Past research has suggested that infidelity is one of the leading causes of divorce. But what drives a person to become unfaithful?

Thanks to a new study published in Contemporary Family Therapy, we now have an inside look into why married women cheat.

Researchers Michelle Jeanfreau, Anthony Jurich, and Michael Mong conducted case studies on four women aged 24 to 51 who cheated on their spouses and whose marriages subsequently ended in divorce. Through in-depth analysis, researchers discovered three common risk factors that contributed to the infidelity.

1. Lack of quality time.

According to the study, all four women expressed a desire to spend more time with their husbands but were often denied, making them feel like a second or third priority to their husbands’ jobs or social lives.

Bella, 48, began her affair three years into her marriage and said she often felt anger toward her husband for leaving her constantly. ‘‘After we had our first child, he’d come in from work, take his bath. I had supper ready, [he'd take] a little nap, get up and go out partying all the time and leave me home with the kids.’’

Similarly, 36-year-old Kate, who cheated on her husband after five years of marriage, said their lack of together time led to constant fighting. "He started coming in late at night, and he would leave early in the mornings and it's like we never saw each other," she explained to researchers. "We would always argue. I wanted him to spend more time with me and he would always make other plans ... do his own thing."

The women, as the researchers explained, felt their husbands were not reciprocating the same level of desire to maintain a strong connection in the marriage, which made them susceptible to finding that connection elsewhere.

2. Inability to resolve conflict.

An inability to communicate often leads to relationship conflicts going unresolved. In these particular cases, the lack of resolution or change in future behavior left the women feeling frustrated, and many voiced a concern that while problems were recognized, no progress was made to fix them.

‘‘We would try and he would say, you know, I’m (going) to do better….and he never would," said Kate.

Linda, 51, who divorced after 21 years of marriage but started cheating just six years in, said she and her ex simply failed to address the root of their conflicts. ‘‘I’d usually just leave until he cooled off and then I’d come back and pout and not say nothing to him.’’

The researchers concluded that a lack of communication was a precursor to cheating: "In each case, the attraction to marital infidelity began to grow for the women because the unresolved issues continued to be a source of conflict in the marital relationship, pushing the women further away from their spouses."

3. Lack of attention.

Through the study, it became clear that all the women craved more intimacy in their marriages. This void was eventually filled by an affair partner.

Bella began thinking about an affair when "somebody started showing me the affection that I needed….the touching and feeling and being wanted.’’

Zoie, 24, who began cheating just seven months into her marriage, said that her husband wouldn't give her even five minutes of attention, whereas her affair partner would talk to her about anything and everything.

Linda, however, summed up the women's desires best. "I want somebody in my life that would love me for me. That would just show attention to me for me…And you know made me feel like I was worthwhile. It was just somebody there to have attention with, show me attention…make me feel better about myself," she said.

What does it all mean?

According to the researchers, none of the women actively sought out affairs. As time went on, however, they grew more frustrated in their marriages and the partner they cheated with became more desirable. When the opportunity arose, there was less hesitation to stray.

Of course, every marriage is different, but the authors of the study note that these specific insights into cheating could help people and professionals identify early warning signs in relationships and work toward fixing them.

Top Tips For Building a Loving Relationship

1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.

Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down.”

Remember: your partner is not the enemy.


2. Separate the facts from the feelings.

What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.


3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.

Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.

4. Develop and cultivate compassion.

Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.

5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.

The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.

The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.

6. Partner, heal thyself.

Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.

7. Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.

All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners’ behavior means. For example: “She doesn’t want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore.” We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what’s not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.

8. Make time for your relationship.

No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.

9. Say the “hard things” from love.

Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.

Top 10 Ways How Online Dating Works Effectively

From its humble beginnings in the form of online personal ads, online dating has evolved into a series of sophisticated websites with algorithms designed to help you meet the girl of your dreams. Public consensus of online dating has morphed from social taboo in the 90s into generally acceptable, though not without its stigma, today. Let us check out the top 10 ways how online dating works effectively.

10. A Quicker Way of Connection

If that relatively quick transformation of public perception, as well as other data trends, is any indication, then online dating will one day become responsible for bringing together the vast majority of couples in the world. I believe it is a quicker way to develop connection and start the relationship.

9. Declines Traditions of Society

The rise of online dating has correlated with a decline in traditional means of meeting a partner. Through friends, family, work and school were among the most common ways for couples to meet during the twentieth century, according to research, but they have all become less influential in relationship formation in recent years. For example, about 21 percent of couples who met around 1940 were first introduced in school and 25 percent by family, compared to about five percent and 10 percent, respectively, in recent years.

8. Develops a Paramount of Relationship

About 40 percent of couples reported meeting through friends in 1990, but that figure has since declined, which perhaps most directly correlates to the rise of online dating as a viable option. This makes us believe that online dating develops a strong paramount of relationship and keeps you at a distance you wanted to be at the initial stages.

7. Secure for Various Populations

Finding a partner online is more efficient for many segments of the population. If you’re Jewish and have your heart set on marrying within your religion, you won’t find a greater pool of Jewish singles than the one on JDate, one of many niche dating sites that target a specific group, usually by ethnicity or lifestyle. PinkCupid (for lesbians), Cougar Life (for cougars and cubs) and Farmers Only (for farmers and rural folk) are a few examples of dating sites that make it easy to meet the types of people you might not easily find in person.

6. Dating Websites have Many Options

When you’re on one of the dating websites, you stack the deck in your favor by having a strong commonality with every person on there, which isn’t typically true of any in-person social gathering. This gives you a chance to have various options. It makes you believe that you won’t be short of persons to choose the most suitable for yourself.

5. Removes Social Barriers 

Social barriers that exist in person are nonfactors online. Approach anxiety doesn’t exist online. Neither do friends who try to pull your target away, nor do guys who try to out-alpha you. She doesn’t have to hold back for fear of looking like a slut in front of her friends. In fact, research has shown that the sense of anonymity that accompanies meeting someone online creates a more conducive environment for opening up to each other sooner than you would in person.

4. Helps You achieve Intimacy

Research shows it’s possible to achieve a sense of intimacy online. For a long time, researchers believed real intimacy could only be established in person, but new studies show it’s possible to forge an emotional connection just from messaging back and forth. When you combine the ability to establish intimacy online with the fact that meeting online doesn’t have the barriers that could inhibit a relationship from forming in person, it’s easy to see the efficiency of using online dating.

3. Fast to Respond the Partner

A couple quick tips: respond to her messages as soon as possible to convey a sense of warmth and use emoticons (but don’t abuse them) to add a little more emotional punch. This is a way to make us believe that online dating works the best because it is a faster process and we don’t need to wait for hours and hours to respond the messages of the partners.

2. Online Dating took Unfrequented Leaps

On a serious note, online dating has already taken unprecedented leaps in terms of its influence on the single population, and there aren’t any reasons to believe it will plateau anytime soon.

1. Ties with Singularity

The advancement of online dating ties in with the singularity. If you’re not familiar, the singularity is supposedly when artificial intelligence will surpass human intelligence. All kinds of hypotheses have been put forth as far as what that will mean for humanity. Some say a robot race will emerge and destroy all humans; others say humans and technology will merge together to create a race of half human/half computers. If the latter turns out to be true, imagine humans with cell phones implanted in their heads and computers merged with their nervous systems. What implications might that have for the future of online dating? Meeting girls could become a bodily function.

Top 10 Ideas For A First Date With Girl

The consternation caused by first-dates with a new person is a timeless, age-old dilemma that never goes out of style. The decisions abound, from what to wear, what to say and where to go?

While we can’t advise you on what to say the first time you go out with someone, and we’re not about to deliberate on fashion choices, here are 10 suggestions to facilitate your decision of where to take someone on a first date:

1. Meet her/him for dinner. It may not break new ground in the pantheon of dating ideas, but there are few better ways to get to know a person on a first date than over dinner. Do it at a casual restaurant rather than a four-star establishment. And don’t make the mistake Mark Ratner did when he brought Stacey to the German restaurant on their first date in “Fast Times at Ridgemont High”—for Gosh sakes, bring enough money to cover the meal!
2. Take them to lunch. It represents less pressure on the part of both parties on the date if the meeting is taking place in the daytime. Not only is it light out, but lunch usually brings with it inherent time limits—a key component just in case you two don’t hit it off and are looking for the escape hatch soon after getting together.
3. Coffee or ice cream. This takes the lunch philosophy and dials it down even more. Although, quite famously, when someone asks, “Wanna come in for coffee?” they don’t always mean coffee, in this case, meeting over coffee or an ice cream cone implies little pressure and more of a breather until (if) you two are able to reach a greater comfort level with one another.
4. A sporting event. Get tickets to a baseball or basketball game and take your date there. It isn’t romantic, but it’s wide open, public, fun, and you’ll have a natural focal point of conversation (the game that you’re both watching) to fill in the gaps in conversation that can be a first-date hazard.
5. Concert. If you both have similar tastes in music, whether it’s rock, hip-hop or classical, then concert tickets might be a good point to start off your potential relationship. Like a ballgame, you’d be meeting in a public place with lots of people around and a common point of interest to generate conversation.
6. Movie. A movie ticket is a lot more expensive than it used to be, and there isn’t a lot of opportunity for get-to-know-each-other conversation in a darkened theater, however the movies are a reliable go-to choice for a first date. You could also combine the movie with suggestions 1, 2 or 3. Or you could hang out at home with a DVD or Netflix movie choice, saving the gas and the money, but upping the ante in terms of possible first-date tension.
7. Picnic. Enjoy the great outdoors by packing a picnic lunch and heading to the park to get to know each other. It’s breezy, casual and a nice chance to connect without having to tip a waitress or concern yourself with the niceties of dining out.
8. The zoo. If you both like nature and wildlife, a visit to the zoo can be just as much fun with a first date as it is with a wide-eyed child.
9. The mall. Another public place where you can walk around, discover common interests and quietly make fun of the people passing you by is the mall. There’s plenty to do, plenty to talk about and the pressure quotient is fairly low.
10. Be active. Take your first date bowling, roller skating, ice skating, mini-golfing or apple picking. You’ll be doing something together, hopefully having fun, and you both might enjoy the dynamic of a plan that involves something other than sitting across a table or in a theater or concert hall with one another.

These tips are no guarantee of date success. Just relax, don’t be dull, and, again, make sure you have enough money on hand.

100 Love Tips IN Hindi

1 Hamesha Ladki ke aankho se aankhen milakar hi baat kare, isse Ladkiyan impress hoti hai.

2 Ladkiyon se jab bhi mile ek pyaari si smile Zarur kare.

3 Hamesha unki help ke liye taiyaar rahe.

4 Unka Birth day kabhi naa bhule aur unhe koi Beautiful gift Zarur de, yaa ek Rose.

5 Us par kabhi bhi gussa na kare, Hamesha pyaar se hi pesh aaye.

6 Ladkiyan Shayari pasand karti hai, isliye aksar unhe unki khubsurti par koi Shayari sunate rahe, aisa karte rahne se wo aapke pyaar me pagal ho jayegi.

7 Unse hamesha achche Dress me hi mile, yaad rakhe aap ko bhi attractive dkhna padega.

8 Agar aap ek hi class me hai to unko Study me yaa Notes banane me Help karte rahe, aisa karne se aap unke aur bhi karib aate jaenge.

9 Aap jab bhi unse mile unhe Hi yaa Hello yaa Shake hand karna na bhule, isse apna pan badata jaega.

10 Ladkiyon ko Good personality wale Ladke bahut achche lagte hai, issliye koi achchi si Gym me exercise kar apni Body ko attractive banaye. isse Ladkiyan aapko dekhte hi impress ho jaengi.

11. Agar aapke pass cell phone hai aur us ladki ke paas bhi ( jise aap patana chahte hai), to aksar usko Funny SMS yaa Love SMS yaa Friendship SMS bhejte rahe. aisa karne se aap unki yaado me bane rahenge.

12 Friendship aur Valentines day ko unhe hamesha wish kare aur ek Pyara sa Gift jarur de. aisa karna najdiki badane ke liye bahut jaruri hai.

13 Ladkiyon se hamesha Romantic mood me hi baat kare, aise baat kare jisse unhe lage ki aap ko unse baat karke bahut hi maza aa raha hai.

14 Hamesha unko Respect de, isse aap unki nazaron me ek achche Ladke bane rahenge, jo Ladki patane ke liye bahut hi zaruri hai.

 15 Ladkiyon se kabhi mat sharmaiye, Maximum Ladki sharmile Ladko ko pasand nahi karti hai, issliye hamesha frankly unse mile.

16 Apni Personality perfect rakhne ke liye hamesha chust durust dikhe, na ki sust yaa kaamchor. Ladkiyan furtile Ladko ko hi pasand karti hai.

 17 Agar Ladki Filmo ki shaukin hai to usse aksar Film ke hi bare me baate kare, isse wo aapse apni feeling bantkar khush aur impress hongi.

 18 Aap apne din ki shuruwat unhe ek mast Good Morning SMS bhejkar karen.

 19 Raat ko sone se pahle ek Pyara sa Good Night SMS bhejkar bhi aap unhe impress kar sakte hai.

20 Ladkiyon se usi topic par baat-chit karo jis me use baat karne me maza aaye, isse wo aapse bahut waqt tak baat kar sakti hai. aur aapki Dosti Pyar me bhi badal sakti hai.

21 Ladkiyon ke samne hamesha apna Cina taan kar chale, aisa karne se Mardangi jhalkti hai aur Ladkiyan Mardon ko hi pasand karti hai.

 22 Ladkiyan darpok ladko ko pasand nahi karti hai issliye aap darna chhod de aur Ladkiyon se ek nidar ki tarah react kare.

23 Agar Ladki aapse kuch mange to use zarur pura karne ki koshish kare( *aap ki jaan k ellawa ), isse Ladkiyan aapse itni impress hongi jiski aap imagine bhi nahi kar sakte.

24 Unke Birth day par sabse pehle aap wish kare, isse wo aapko kabhi nahi bhul pyengi.

25 Hamesha unse kisi na kisi bahane milte rahe, isse aap unki nazaron aur yaado me aksar bane rahenge.

 26 Unhe Dinner ya Lunch ke liye offer kare, ager wo agree ho jaye to unke pasand ke hotel me unke pasand ki dish order kare. wo forann aap par fida ho jayegi.

 27 Ladkiyon se pehle Dosti karo baad me unse apne Dil ki baat kahna, Pyar ke mamle me patience se kaam le.

 28 Jab wo aap se baat kare to unki baato ko unki aankon me aankhen dalkar pore dhyan se sune.

29 Agar Ladki aapki neighbor ho to roz subah unko dekhte hi Good Morning zaror kahe.

 30 Agar Ladki aapki Class met ho to unse shake hand jarur kare.

31 Agar aap unke sath antakhshari khele to unko target karke Loveable song zarur gaye.

 32 Agar wo aapse raste par Lift mange to aap use zarur de, aur aise react kare jaise aap bahut zaruri kaam se ja rahe the Lekin unke liye aapne jaruri kaam chhod kar unhe Lift di, isse wo aap se Impress hue bina nahi rah sakegi aur aap use aasani se pata lenge.

33 Agar wo koi problem me ho to sabse pehle unki help ke liye aap pahuche, ye Ladki patane ke liye zaruri sabak hai.

 34 Ladkiyan bahut emotional hoti hai isliye unki emotion ki hamesha ezzat kare.

 35 Agar Ladki koi bhari kaam kar rahi hai to aap unki madad zarur kare. kaam me hath batane se Pyar badata hai.

 36 Agar School/College me unki Gaadi ka Petrol khatam ho gaya ho to aap apni Gaadi ka Petrol nikalkar zarur de. (* agar kisi aur ki gadi ka nikalna pare to b koi baat nai magar aisa sunehri moqa hath se na jane dein)

37 Unse hamesha hansi mazak karte rahe, Lekin ek limit me hi.

38 Agar Ladki kahi paidal ja rahi ho to aap unhe apni Bike me Pahucha dene ka offer zarur kare, aisa impression jamane ke liye badiya mauka hai.

 39 Aap kisi Ladki ko bahut pyar karte hai to apni feeling ko Pink color ke paper par likhkar unhe zarur de, yaani unhe Love Letter likhe.

 40 Maximum Ladkiyan Funny Ladke pasand karti hai, isliye aapko bhi Funny banana padega.

41 Jab bhi aap Ladkiyon se mile to unhe ek Mazedar Jokes zarur sunaye, yaa kuch Funny Shayari hi.

42 Agar wo Morning walk karne jati hai to aap bhi uske sath sath walk karne jaye, subah ke mast mahaul me aap unse Mazedar baate kar unhe impress kar sakte hai.

 43 Agar unke paas cell phone hai to kisi bhi bahane unse Contact karte rahiye, aur SMS bhi bhejte rahiye.

 44 Agar unka tabiyat thik naa ho to unse milne zarur jaye, aur unka haal chaal zarur puche. (* agar tabiat kharab na huti ho to julab ki goolyan khila dein).

45 Apne Birth Day me unhe invite karna na bhule, aur aaye to ye kahna "aap hi ka intzar kar raha tha, ab aap aa gai ho ab mai Cake katunga.

 46 Unke diye hue Gift ki tarif zarur kare, tarif karna Diye me Ghee dalne ke jesa hai.

 47 Agar unka Mail ID aap jante ho to unko Mail karte rahe aur ye ehsas dilaye ki aap dinbhar unki hi khayalo me khoye rahte hai.

 48 Agar aap ko apne Padosan ko patana ho to unke ghar aate jate rahe aur zarurat padne par unki madad karte rahe. Unhe rotya lagwa kar dein utilty store se aata la kar den ...*( utilty store se na mile to apne ghar se la kar dein )

49 Agar Padosan ka bhai bhi hai to, Pehle uske bhai se Dosti karo, uske bhai ki nazaro me aap ek samajhdar Ladke ki tarah raho, isse aapka unke ghar aana jana laga rahega. *( bhai chota hu to tofyan le kar do aur agar bara hu to sirf mashwra do )

50 Har insan apni tarif sunana chahta hai, isliye aap Ladki ke har Chizo ki tarif karte rahe. Kabi naak ki kabi aankhon ki aur kabo taango aur taango me mojod joton ki tarif karna na bholein.

51 Ladkiyon se hamesha Confidence ke sath hi baat kare.

 52 Agar aap kisi Ladki ko Patana chahte hai to usse baat karne ki koshish kare. aur apni feeling ko kisi din Letter me likhkar unhe de do. isse Ladki aapke Himmat ki Kayal ho jayegi. (* magar ye khayal zrur rakhye k jotey b par sakte hein)

53 Agar unka koi Nick name ho to aap unko Nick name se hi pukare. isse aap unko apne se lagenge.

54 Jab bhi aap unse mile to unko uske pasand ki Chocolate zarur dein. Ladkiyon ke shauk pure karne se unko Patane me aasani hoti hai. ( magar ap ki jebkharch ko...).

55 Agar Ladki ice-cream khane ki shaukin ho to unko jarur isske liye offer karte rahein.

56 Ladkiyan agar group me ho to aap unhe (Jinhe Patana hai) hi dekhte rahe, aisa karne se wo bhi aap ke taraf attract ho jaegi.

57 Agar aap kisi Ladki ko Propose karna chahte ho to, aap unka ek hath padkar unhe Red Rose dekar Propose karein. wo aap ka Proposal zarur accept kar legi. ( warna aapko uski taraf se kuch accept karna pare ga , chapait,jota ya kuch aur)

58 Unki har ada ki tarif zarur kare, wo zarur khush hongi. ( matlab makhan lagao)

59 Propose karna Mard ka kaam hai iss liye aap ye mat soche ki Ladki aakar aapko Propse karengi, Pahle aapko hi Propose karna hoga.

60 Agar wo kabhi aapke ghar ke samne se guzre to use apne ghar zarur bulayen, aur Chaay ya Coffee zarur pilaye. isse wo aapke mehman navazi ki kayal ho jayegi.

61 Agar aap unka ghar jante hai to Eid (bakra eid) ke din unke ghar zror jayin gosht lene .

62 Agar aap Party me kisi Ladki ko Patana chahte ho to, aap sabse pehle unse jakar milen aur apna Introduction de, isse dhire-dhire baat cheet ka silsila shuru hoga aur aap use Pata lenge.

63 Aap ki Padosan agar School/College jane ke liye nikal rahi ho to aap unke sang hole aur unse baat karte hue aap bhi jaye. aisa Continue 3 Dino tak kare aur 4th Din mat jana, wo 5th Din aapse zarur puchegi kal kyu nahi aaye. aur iss tarah mulakat se aap use Pata hi lenge.

64 Ladki Patane ke liye Confidence bahur hi zaruri hai isliye aap Pahle apne aap pe bharosa rakhiye ki aap use Pata kar hi Dumm lenge, aur aap apne Confidence ke bal par hi use Pata lenge.

65 Ladkiyan Patane ke liye apne aap me kuch quality paida kare, jaise Singing, Dancing, Body Building, Acting. quality hone se Ladki Patana bahut asan ho jata hai.

66 Agar aap me koi buri aadat ho to use chhod de, bure Ladke pasand nahi kiye jate hai, isliye apni buri aadato ko chod de.

67 Ladkiyon ke samne kabhi bhi Smoking na kare aur na hi Drinking. ye baat hamesha yaad rakhe Ladkiyan Good Manners wale Ladko ko hi Pasand karti hai.

68 Ladkiyon ke samne kabhi bhi Gandi baate naa kare isse aapka unke samne ek bad boy ki image ban jaygi. aap unke samne Talented person ki tarah hi Behavior kare.

69 Agar aap jante hai ki wo kis Film Hero ki Fane hai to aap usi Hero ke jaisi Hair Style rakhe aur usi ki tarah dikhne ki khoshish kare. Ladki aapse impress hogi hi.

70 Aap hamesha unse sach bolne ki koshish kare, isse aap unhe sachche Ladke lagenge. jo ki impress karne ke liye zaruri hai.

71 Aap unke lye hamesha vafadar rahe, har Ladkiyan ek vafadar sathi ki talash me rehti hai.

72 Agar aapke makaan ke kiraye daar ko Patana ho to uske kuch mahine ka Kiraya maaf karde. isse aapki unse nazdikiyan badengi. aur wo aapka ehsan mand ho jaengi ( agar aap kanjoos aadmi hu to koi baat nai dil pe haath rakhein kuch pane k lye kuch khona parta ha , kuch samjho karo yar).

73 Ladkiyan hazirjawab Ladkon ko Pasand karti hai issliye aap hazirjawab dene wale person baniye ( lekin jaldi mein koi chawal maarne se parhez karain)

74 Kai Ladkiyan filmo ki baate karna bahut pasand karti hai, aise Ladkiyon se aap unke pasand ki filmo ke baare me baate karke unhe impress kar sakte hai.

75 Intelligent Ladko se Ladkiyan impress hoti hai issliye aap apni Study improve karke Ladkiyon ko impress kar sakte hai.

76 Ladkiyan Patane ke liye aapka General Knowledge Strong hona chahiye, GK Ladkiyon ko Patane me bahut hi Helpful hota hai.

77 Ladkiyan saaf suthri image wale Ladko ko Like karti hai issliye aap jhagde-jhanjhaton se dur hi rahe.

78 Aap jis Ladki ko Patana chahte hai use agar koi pareshaan kar raha ho to aap us Ladki ki madad kare, isse wo Ladki aapse forann Pat jayegi. ( aap ko villen se maar b khana par sakti ha)

79 Agar wo koi khaas type ke Book read karne ki shaukin ho to aap use wo Book Gift kare (for exa. Comics, Film Magazines etc.). wo aapse zarur impress hongi aur aap unhe easily Pata lenge.

 80 Hamesha koi badiya Body Spray (Perfume) lagaya kare. aapke Body ki khushbu Ladkiyon ko aapki aur attract karegi

81 Agar wo aapki kuch help kare to usse thanks zarur kahe. impression jamane ke liye ye chhoti-chhoti formalities bahut kaam aati hai.

 82 Agar aapke paas Bike ho to use hamesha saaf suthri rakhe, Ladkiyan Saaf suthri Bike me hi ghumna Pasand karti hai. issliye apne Bike ko attractive banaaye.

 83 Aap Mobile set aisa rakhe jo aapki Personality ko suet kare. achhe Mobile set rakh kar Ladkiyon ko apni taraf attract kiya ja sakta hai.

 84 Apne cell phone ke wallpaper me unka Photo set kar ke rakhe, aur use dikhaye wo aapse zarur impress hongi. ( * sirf use dikhaye uske bhai sahib ko nai. Mein aik daffa larki k bhai ko dikha betha aur...).

 85 Aap kisi din unse ye kah kar ki "aap mujhe aapna autograph denge to ye meri khushnasibi hogi". aap unka autograph mangkar unko impress kar sakte hai.

 86 Apne cell phone me koi Romantic Ring tone hi rakhe, Romantic Ring tone sunkar Ladkiyan zarur impress hoti hai. Ladkiyon ko Patane ke liye unhe impress karna bahut hi zaruri hai.

87 Unke ghar ke paas se jab bhi guzre unhe dekhne ki koshish zarur kare. unhe ye ehsas dilana zaruri hai ki aap unme interest rakhte hai.

 88 Agar aap unse kahi mile aur unke sath me unke Parents ho to unhein salam zarur bulain. Ladki forunn aapse impress hogi (agar Ladki JaanPehchan wali ho ussi condition me hi).

89 Agar wo age me aapse chhoti ho phir bhi aap unse "AAP" kahkar hi baat karein. unhe lagna chahiye ki aap unka bahut respect karte hain.

 90 Unke sath kabhi bhi bahas nahi karen hamesha unki baat ka sath dein. tabhi unko Pata sakte hai.

91 Har Ladki apne Khubsurti ki tarif sunana chahti hai issliye aap unki khubsurti ka hamesha tarif karte rahe. ye Ladki Patane ka Super hit Formula hai.

 92 Aap unhe hamesha ye kahe ki wo Duniya ki sabse Beautiful Ladki hai. wo aap se hamesha khush rahegi aur easily set ho jayegi. ( pyar aur jung me sab jayes hay).

93 Mere ek Dost ki 56 Girl Friend hai. usne un sabhi ko Patane ke liye jo Formula use kiya hai wo hai- "Ladkiyon se hamesha unke baare me hi baate karo". wo hamesha Ladkiyon se unke hi baare me baate karte rahta tha aur Ladkiyan Pat gai.

94 Unse kabhi bhi gandi baate na kare unse achhi baate hi kare, tabhi kamyabi milegi.

 95 Aap unse ye kahe ki aap unke liye kuch bhi kar sakte hai, wo aap se impress hogi hi.

96 Maximum Ladkiyan Clean shave kiye hue Ladko ko Like nahi karti hai issliye unhein khush dikhne ke liye shave na karien.

 97 Ladkiyon ko kabhi bhi ghur kar naa dekhe balki unhe hamesha Pyaar bhari nazaron se hi dekhe, Ladki aapki Diwani ho jayegi.

98 Agar kabhi unke sath Film jane ka mauka mile to koi Romantic Film hi dekhne jaye, unke sath Romantic Film dekhi matlab Ladki Pattiiiii.

99 Ladkiyan apne zulfon (hair) ki tarif sunana Pasand karti hai, issliye unhe Patane ke liye unke zulfon par Shayari sunaye yaa tarif kare.

100 Aap unki sabhi baaton par agree karein unke kisi bhi baaton ko naa kaate, aap dono ke think milne ka ehsas dilakar bhi aap unhe aasani se Pata sakte hai.

101 Aap unke sath hamesha unke baare me hi baate karein, aur unko special hone ka ehsas zarur dilaye, uski tareef me zameen asmaan aik kar dejye isse wo aapki Diwani ho jayegi.

Note : Ye topic sirf aap logon ki entertainment k lye likha gya hai.Iska maqsad aap logon ko aise ghattya kaam k lye mashwara dena nahi es lye meharbani se es ka galt estamal matt kejjye .

The ultimate truth about men and not only.

Until now, I’ve written and written various articles about men. I’ve classified them, placing them by categories and I’ve created different stereotypes, in order to please each of you, men or women. But you know what? There is no universal truth!

There are no categories of men; there are neither angels nor neither daemons, neither good nor bad. Men are just people, just like us, women. We tend to believe that somewhere, somebody did a great list about all their attributes and mistakes, knowing much more than ordinary people do and that he hidden it deeply, into an old cave or into an ancient book. We want to believe it, because this gave us hope and makes us to have greater expectations and desires, in our search for the right man. We like to see a guy on the street and think: “He has green eyes. I read that men with green eyes are romantic, serious, but also day dreamers. Maybe he is not for me. I want a responsible, down to earth guy, to marry me and make some intellectual children like the couple next door.” We don’t say it loud, but we create a mental itinerary, establishing our destiny, as it would be written in the pages of a magazine. We build imaginary patterns of happiness and fulfillment and try to respect word by word the advice of a so called “love expert”, considering that he knows for sure the ultimate truth about men; that he could be one of those who found the ancient book of love.

Well, it’s not quite like this and you know it, I’m sure. Deep in your soul, you posses everything you need to know about men, but when it comes about romance and the perfect date, you just loose your self confidence, preferring to follow some stereotypical lines in order not to be wrong. But are you aware that 80% of women do the same as you? And that a man is forced to hear the same stories and phrases from almost every woman they meet?

Each imitates somehow the other. We see a beautiful women or a woman who has a successful marriage and ask her: “What’s your secret? How do you keep him interested in you?” And she answers: “Well, I tell him how much I love him 10 times a day, I cook for him, I know to recreate the first magical moments in our lives…” and so on. But maybe not all men like to hear 10 times a day “I love you.” Or maybe he doesn’t want you to cook for him, as he prefers to take you out to dinner. Maybe he doesn’t like so much the way you cook. Or maybe he prefers Italian or Chinese food, which you don’t know so well to prepare.

I will repeat myself. There is no universal truth about men, as they are so complex beings. Each man will be perceived differently by each woman who stays next to him. For example, a hilarious guy may seem amusing for a lady, but fool for another. What about the way in which we, women, should behave in the presence of a man? Did you ever though that men can be bored of “reading” the same lines taken from magazines on the lips of every woman? You hear everywhere that you should seem a little bit mysterious and cold, being dressed in a certain way….But maybe the man you’re seeing with, even if it is for the first time, will be more attracted by you if you’re honest, saying him the pure truth: “Excuse me, I have a lot of problems, so I can’t focus very well on our discussion, but I will try to do everything I can, because I’m interested to find out more.” You won’t look desperate; you will rather seem even more relaxed and natural. Maybe you are not so confident regarding the way in which you chosen your outfit.

The magazines will tell you to look always self confident and to keep your head up. But maybe, if you really don’t feel so good, it would be better to tell him: “I’m not sure about the way in which my clothes fit me. More than that, I’m not very comfortable also. These heels are killing me, but I wanted to look a little bit taller;” and to laugh after. Would it be wrong? He will appreciate your humor and the fact that you accept your defects and he will even compliment you.

There are no “10 Tips to seduce him” or “How to flirt with him in the right way”, there is only you and him. And the connection that can or can not be established between you. You can use as many “expert” techniques to make him be with you, but it will all be in vain if there isn’t that “quelque chose”/ “je ne sais quoi” between you. Each people, either it’s about a woman or a man, has a certain light that can be seen only by certain persons. Even if you are the most beautiful, intelligent and stunning woman in all matters, you could be nothing for a man, if that something special is missing. Of course, after making the first steps, the love must be maintained and cared. But this doesn’t involve all kind of tricks & tips; it all must come from the inside.

You should do whatever you feel. Maybe today all you want is to say him nice words of love. Maybe tomorrow you won’t feel so good and your words will sound forced; in this case, you don’t have to say anything, just be sincere and share some memories or whatever you able to say, with him.

And sometimes even the most unsuccessful dates aren’t the result of your actions, so nobody can be blamed. Without that chemistry, all the stereotypes in the world will be just some clichés. The perfect woman or the perfect man is inside you, being part of you. And the loved one will know where to find it, offering in turn his best side.